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December 10, 2016

"Hey girl, you hanging in there?"

That's what she said to me when I saw her this morning in the coffee shop. I'm not super close to this lady. I think I've talked to her twice directly and it was always super quick and just small talk. It struck me and normally I would have just smiled and said something polite to indicate that yes, I was hanging in there. Not today!

There have been moments in my life this last year, when I would have answered this differently. Probably the way she was expecting. Moments when I could barely pick myself up off the floor. Moments I was so insecure, I turned to alcohol, smoking and men to try to fill the hole. Moments I was just trying to numb the pain and drink myself to sleep so I could wake up, just to make it through another day. I immersed myself in a lifestyle that was so unhealthy for my body and heart. Those days were the days that I was "hanging in there"

But not today.

Today I said with confidence, "No not hanging in there, thriving! I'd like to think I'm living each day thriving and not just getting by."

She seemed shocked at my reply. Then she opened up about some struggles she was having.

I tend to only open up to my family and close friends about what's going on in my life. I think because of that, a lot of people don't know how I'm doing emotionally and they tend to make assumptions based off what they'd be feeling going through a similar situation. A lot of people I use to consider close haven't talked to me in months because they didn't know what to say.

I'm telling you all this to say, let's not be scared to talk to one another and pray for each other when we are struggling. You may not know what to say, but being present and speaking up and asking is going to be the best way to find out! You may be surprised by the response you get, but then we know more about each other and how we can minister to each other!

Don't be afraid to talk to me. I'm confident in where I'm at in my spiritual walk. God's working.



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